This document discusses various types and causes of conflict, as well as principles and methods for resolving conflict in constructive ways. It addresses conflict within individuals, between individuals, within families and larger social groups. The document presents a framework for understanding the root causes of conflicts and provides guidance on reflection, making amends, forgiveness, and reconciliation to restore harmony. It emphasizes taking responsibility for one's role, making restitution for harm done, and fostering understanding between opposing parties with help from mediators when needed.
1.Mature Character
2.Loving Relationships & Family
3.Contribution to Society
1.Time of maturing of character for marriage and parenthood.
2.Springtime of life for youth.
Youth Idealistic, sensitive, romantic and passionate.
Need guidance and protection
1.Includes sexual attraction
Rooted in instinctual and unconscious forces
2.Transient stage
3.Lasting intimacy, freedom and joy takes time and investment
1.Involvement & Investment
2.Bonding power
3.Develop affection
4.Revive a relationship
1.Loving has purpose and direction
Grounded in heart & conscience
Purpose determines depth of love
2.Love is grounded in ethical standards beyond the personal relationship
1.Looking for love
2.Seeking acceptance
From partner
From peers
3.Proving one’s manhood or womanhood
1.Physical experience alone does not satisfy the emotional need
2.Love blossoms only in the context of long-term commitment
1.Does not prove adulthood
2.Does not prove manhood or womanhood
1.Regret
2.Heartbreak
3.Guilt and shame
4.Stunted personal growth
5.Loss of self-respect
6.Fear of commitment
Source: Thomas Lickona,“The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
7.Anxiety over possible pregnancy and disease
8.Rage over betrayal
9.Corruption ofcharacter
10.Depression and suicide
Source: Thomas Lickona, “The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
1.As preparation for possible marriage
2.To select a better marriage partner
1.If married later, greater likelihood of divorce
2.Increased conflict and poorer communication
3.Greater risk of violence to women
7 times the risk of assault by boy friends than by husbands
Source: National Crime Victimization Survey, US Department of Justice, 1992
Temptation of Sexual Love
1.Regret
2.Heartbreak
3.Guilt and shame
4.Stunted personal growth
5.Loss of self-respect
6.Fear of commitment
Source: Thomas Lickona,“The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
Temptation of Sexual Love
1.Opportunity to regain a sense of self-worth
2.Best option for those disillusioned with premarital sex
Therefore I commit myself
1.To strive for maturity of heart and character
2.To learn how to practice true love as a child, friend, spouse and parent
3. To refrain from all sexual relationships before marriage
4. To dedicate myself to fidelity within marriage
The pure relationship of love between a man and a woman is a sacred trust to be cherished and honored, for the sake of building a true family, a healthy nation, and a world of peace.
Once that love is consummated, it should never be broken.
Love and honor one’s parents
Cultivation of loyalty
Springboard to all forms of love
Cultivates empathy
Fosters sense of self worth
Sharpens relational and parenting skills
Broadens base of friendship
“ If you loved me you would let me”
“ I know you really want to”
“ Everybody is doing it”
“ If you loved me, you would not push me”
“ Yes - with my future spouse”
“ Not me”
Moral conviction is most important
Large numbers are making the commitment to save sex until marriage