Building for generations

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Building for generations

  1. 1. Building for Generations Product dictates design
  2. 2. Where are you going?
  3. 3. Parenting
  4. 4. Parenting A process where it is legal to punish someone else for your crimes.
  5. 5. If you want to be successful you must respect one rule: Never lie to yourself. ~ Paulo Coelho
  6. 6. Who’s responsible? •If your child doesn’t study? •If your child has no manners? •If your child is not connected to Allah‫?ﷻ‬ •If your child has no life skills? So who must be punished?But who is punished?
  7. 7. Do you want to change this?
  8. 8. Qualities of the Parent 1. Inspire respect & confidence 2. Demonstrate high values and moral standards 3. Communicate with understanding & respect 4. Motivate & create excitement in learning 5. Demand commitment & rigor 6. Never compromise on quality & principles Remember: Children listen with their eyes
  9. 9. How are you on this list? How do you know?
  10. 10. Guide not Force 1. Don’t live out your fantasies through your children 2. They’re individuals. Not your alter ego. 3. Don’t force them to do what you couldn't do or what you think is best for them 4. Let them realize their own potential. Not yours. Our generation made this world – not theirs
  11. 11. Reality 1. They belong to Allah‫,ﷻ‬ not to you 2. You don’t own them, you hold them in trust 3. Allah‫ﷻ‬ will hold you accountable for them, not them for you 4. They are your Thawaab-ul-Jaariya And your dua is their most powerful resource
  12. 12. What to do??
  13. 13. 3 – Key Steps 1. Accept that you need to change 2. Own up to your responsibility 3. Make Tawba and seek forgiveness Prepare to take the pain
  14. 14. COMMUNICATE 1. Listen 2. Reflect 3. Seek clarity 4. Listen again And again
  15. 15. Is this your child?
  16. 16. Then Why? Do you imagine that telling and forcing will work?
  17. 17. New Way 1. Seek to understand them 2. Support them 3. Show them why your way is better 4. Show them WiiFM Be prepared to work hard
  18. 18. Justice 1. Involve them in decisions that concern them 2. Seek their opinion seriously 3. Understand their fears 4. Get their buy-in to an exciting future 5. Challenge them and show the benefit Otherwise prepare to fail
  19. 19. Teach Values first? •Why Values? • Inspire and motivate • Sustain through hardship • Provide a sense of purpose • Create resilience • Anchor self esteem and identity Values can’t be legislated. They must be inculcated
  20. 20. Integrity Integrity is one of several paths ~ But it’s the only one on which you will never be lost
  21. 21. 6 – Critical Attitudes 1. Power to envision the future 2. Courage to question & take a stand 3. Determination to set extraordinary goals 4. Tools to derive their own solutions 5. Willingness for team-work & collaboration 6. Lifelong openness to learning Teach tools because you don’t know the future
  22. 22. And remind them that….. •Current circumstances don’t determine whether you will succeed or fail, they only determine where you need to start. Courage is a factor of faith
  23. 23. To teach the child to succeed in a future that you know nothing about Your challenge
  24. 24. Action Steps Start Stop Continue
  25. 25. A successful parent is one who enables the child to leverage its strengths and sets its feet on a path of self discovery where s/he constantly strives to make the world a better place.
  26. 26. www.yawarbaig.com Twitter: myawarbaig Books: www.amazon.com/author/yawarbaig

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