Parent role in developing decision making skill parenting tips

" Teaching is an art". Rajeev Ranjan 2

Child is gift of God. God provides us
unique capacity to survive in the world.
Child is a spontaneous individual. He
can say ‘no’ or ‘yes’ instantly. He can
leave good thing and can cry for trivial
thing. Everyone realizes the beauty of a
child in our life. Child is free from one
the biggest worry of the world, ‘what’
other will think for him. A child is
spontaneous thinker. S/he is a natural
decision maker. Generally, his/her
decision is based on his likes and
dislikes. A child takes decision without

We are world citizen. Our life styles changes very fast.
Kids become crazy in this virtual world. They love to spend
much of their time on smart phone. Nowadays a child can
forget to take lunch / completing homework on time. They
may not show much interest in learning but they need
smart phone/laptop to see their favourite programmes.
Parent faces a big challenge in deviating child’s attention
from smart phone or smart laptop. Parent makes aware his
kids, ‘what is good or bad’ for life. They are kids. They will
show rigidity and stubbornness but parent makes him
sensible.

A wise parent develops good habit in child’s habit
formation stages. A wise parent establishes the values by
providing ample opportunities and facilities rationally
right from childhood i.e. when a child does not know the
values of his demand but becomes a rigid boy/girl based
on his/her likes and dislikes. Experience people remarks
that there is a thin layer difference between likes and
dislikes at early stage of life. Child may be unable to
differentiate between these two. Parent inculcates right
values and helps his ward to develop decision making skill
at right time and right place.

When we observe children in our family, society, school,
market and in a branded national or international
shopping centre, we closely observe the decision making
skill of kids at different situations. Of course they know
what to share, what to demand and at what place to
demand. A five years old child never ever demands
chocolate/ice-cream in a medical shop. They demand
different eatable items in a sweet shop and different toys
in a toy shop.

A wise parent spends quality time with his child.
Decision making skill should be developed through
inculcating good manner at early stages because at this
juncture a child only understands the word ‘good and bad’.
A parent develops decision making through good habit,
and through using external source of motivation. Parent
inculcates habit of brushing teeth regularly, taking healthy
breakfast timely, and reaching bus stop on time,
completing class work and homework on time, returning
back to home on time after playing in the evening,
watching television and using mobile etc on time. Parent
motivates his child, if s/he shows moderate behaviour

A good parent always talks to his wards for involving him in decision making. Mr.
Chandan is a primary teacher in a government school. He wanted to buy a laptop. He
decided a budget of 25000 for the laptop. His elder daughter Sonali studies in 6th
class in a
reputed school. She searched each and everything on Google and suggested her father to
buy a laptop costs 37 thousands. She was very happy and shared all necessary
information with her father. Mr. Chandan has only 25 thousand in the bank account. If he
would buy choice of Sonali, he will lend money on interest. Mr. Chandan sat with his
daughter and discussed real problems with Sonali. Sonali got upset because that was one
of the best laptop and two other classmates’ father had already bought that configuration
too; even she had talked her computer teacher regarding this laptop. Notwithstanding,
Sonali went to market with her Uncle and bought the choice of her father, and was very
happy after bringing the laptop at home. Mr. Chandan had arranged 37thousands in
advance but first he discussed with Sonali, gave her opportunity to think what would be
the best for family. Sonali came up with rational decision which suited to her and family
too. Sonali is only 11 years old and have great passion for latest technology but made
right decision although she pressurized her father to buy costly laptop but later on she
bought laptop.

What do we think? What was the role of Sonali father? How did
he nurture Sonali? Mr. Chandan helped her to identify
objective of buying the laptop. A wise parent makes
his/her child sensible enough to indentify the purpose of
any task. If a child is able to identify his/her need, surely
s/he will take a rational decision.

How to do we get? What are benefits?
 When discussing for buying laptop, Mr. Chandan discussed
with Sonali about process of procurement of the items. The
laptop which Sonali wanted to purchase, it was not
available in nearby town. She had to buy it online but one
of Mr. Chandan friend offered him discount of 500 Rupee
on the laptop. So, Sonali thought that she will not only buy
laptop very soon that fulfils her need but will also save Rs.
500, which can be spent on other family expenditure.
.

What are the best possible alternatives?
Mr. Chandan helped her daughter to realize that although
her choice was very nice but she has only 25 thousands in
her hand to buy. He helped Sonali to think other possible
alternate (different company) before taking final decision.

What does our wisdom say?
Sonali was very rigid to buy costly laptop because so many of her
classmates bought that laptop. She wants to show her high
stature among her friends. Her father asked her questions. What
do you want? Do you want that I should lend money on interest?
Do you know our source of income? How will I pay? Do we really
need to buy laptop of such configuration? It was hardly 10
minutes discussion between father and daughter but result is
before us. We are experienced and educated people. We know
things in a better way. Parent sole purpose is to sensitize his/her
kids. Our kids are sensible, they will develop right
understanding. Our task is to make them aware because it may
be possible that s/he visualizes something according to her age
and understanding.

Decision making skills grow in real life experience
Wise parent leads his ward to walk on right path. He
initiates ways and provide different opportunity through
different means and medium to nurture the decision
making skill in his child. He helps his wards to pass
through different situations to feel the pulse of right and
wrong decision and its consequences in our life.

Mr. Bhola Singh was an astute farmer. He used to ask his
son if he had to help other needy farmer in terms of
sending his own tractor to plough the field. Mr. Nilabh
recalled his childhood memories. He flashed back and
shared, “I did not feel the importance of the particular
questions, asked by my father. I did not remember now,
“what was my father’s decision in such situation, but he
used to ask me and I used to give answer at that time”.
Now, I felt that my father used to make me a sensible
person, indeed a decision maker.

Decision making is a life skill. Skill helps us to grow. Decision
making involves thousand of factors. A wise parent nurtures
his/her ward’s capacity to take a wise decision. He develops the
ability to understand the importance of decision making and
decision making process to lead an integrated life. We have to
accept the universal truth that “Nobody can decide anything
for us. Of course, others can help us to do so, but the decision
has to be ours. I am accountable for my destiny. It is “I” who
has to take right decision at right time.

We remember quotes of French philosopher, René Descartes
(1596-1650) who proposed a ‘truth’: Cogito ergo sum (I think,
therefore I am). A wise parent develops his ward as an
independent individual thinker who can think rationally and
accept the challenges of his own decision. He says, “I think it is
very well’; I am going to do this. He can say, “I have taken this
decision because I think (point 1, point 2 so and so forth).
Parent will say ‘yes you can’; I believe in you. Nurture an
independent decision maker. A child is unique individual; we
will not make him/her a parasite.

Rajeev Ranjan
Principal
B.Ed(English), PGDTE & Psy. Counselor
English and Foreign Languages University, Hyderabad
Email .Id : rajeevbhuvns@gmail.com
Website: www.rajeevranjan.net
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